for the men who cheat because another female was better in bed, does that make it ok for women to cheat because another male has a bigger dick? or lasts longer?
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for the men who cheat because another female was better in bed, does that make it ok for women to cheat because another male has a bigger dick? or lasts longer?
EVERYONE WHO CHEATS CHOOSES TO CHEAT. PLAIN AND SIMPLE.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ol' Dirty Trix+
It's the exact same thing, I'm not getting your question.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ol' Dirty Trix+
i know it's the same thing, but men reckon they can do it and it's not wrong for them to do it.
So what if they say it? Doesn't mean it's right, same thing for women. If you choose to commit to one person I.E. couple/marriage then it's not right. period. And all of your "but men" posts makes me feel like you've been played. Women cheat as much IF NOT more than men, they are just very very more on the low with it, there's ton of men out here who will never know their wife cheated on themQuote:
Originally Posted by Ol' Dirty Trix+
the same can be said about women stuck indoors with kids while their men are at work with their female colleagues.
but i'm not saying women don't cheat, but there are reasons for cheating like you've explained. and i'm just here to discuss reasons behind cheating, not about who cheats and who doesn't.
what do you mean the same can be said? What are you referring to? Why women cheat? My bad for being confused it's just that your sentence didn't have any relation to my last post.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ol' Dirty Trix+
when you said there's a ton of men who will never know if their wives have cheated on them.
Oh ok cool. You're right it's the same thing. But let's before real, a man will be revealed about his dirty doings before a woman is.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ol' Dirty Trix+
would that make it any less wrong?
Nah, as i've stated before it's wrong on both sides, no matter what. I was just making a different point supporting my previous statement that some men will never know that their women cheats on them. Men tend to do stuff to fuck up that secrecy faster than a women would.
ppl cheat because its natural for one to want something they cant/dont have. if 2 ppl that are in a relationship are progressive thinkers, they would know how to separate love & lust. lust come and go and/or is for the moment while love takes time to at least feel youve connected with the right person and vice versa.
if ppl knew how to not attach emotions with their physical sexual desires life will be much simpler and will eliminate drama that emerge among couples due to infidelity. unfortunately however, not all of us are monks that can curb our instincts and natural humanistic behavior.
to answer Trixx's question about why is it wrong if women do it... its no different if women cheat, its the same shit regardless of why they did it or what made them cheat, result is always the same thing. in the society we live in, cheating is defined as fucking someone other than the one youre in a committed relationship with without their knowledge of the act.
fact is, men are portrayed as superior to women in most parts of the world. just looking at The States alone women couldnt even vote until 1920.. lol thats pretty much saying...uh...no we dont want your input in this at all just stick to what youre good at : housework.
countless examples thruout history plays a part on why women are unfairly portrayed if they cheat compared to men and a great example would be religion, especially christianity. theyve succeeded in manipulating the world that sex is a bad thing.. lol they made it look like as if its wrong to have sex to enjoy it, rather we should only fornicate for reproduction purposes. even chnaged scriptures within their own circuit, most christians are taught that mary magdaline was a whore. lol
the main thing that makes this whole shit complicated is the "rules" that we follow and are programmed to since we are born. once you learn to step out and look at the big picture you will be able to come up with your own answers and a good way to start is honest communication with the person you are in a relationship with.
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if you're in a monogamous relationship you're supposed to have emotions attached to your sexual desires. that's what makes it a relationship. are you saying people shouldn't have relationships at all?Quote:
Originally Posted by tekunique
and no one was asking anyone to be a monk and curb sexual desires. if you're in a relationship you're meant to have sex and have sexual desires for the person you're with, no one else. if there are others you desire sexually then you gotta control that urge. people have choices, unfortunately some people choose to fuck up.
i think a very important factor when looking at cheating is the coolidge effect (Coolidge effect is a phenomenon—seen in nearly every mammalian species in which it has been tested—whereby males (and to a lesser extent females) exhibit renewed sexual interest if introduced to new receptive sexual partners,[1][2][3][4] even after refusing sex from prior but still available sexual partners). i think men would cheat more cuz theyre more sexually charged if that makes sense. if a man is caught in a bad situation itd probably treat. but he'll probably b ashamed afterwards. i think whn a female cheats theyd b more likely to look 4 some1 2 seduce cuz theyre unsatisfied.
theres advantages and disadvantages 2 cheating and every1s got their own moral code and they can decide 4 themselves.
to answer the question yes its somewhat natural 2 cheat cuz of the coolidge effect and its exciting and interesting 2 have some1 new and theres also the danger factor. even if u dont want 2 cheat at all u would probably still look and think about other people apart from ur poartner in a sexual way. but people can make a conscious decision for themselves and dont have 2 act on impulses
no thats not what i meant, im saying if you slept with someone other than your bf/gf/hunband/wife, its most likely based on lust. if you leave it at that iand move on it will prevent alot of bullshit you may have to deal with along the way but its just that us humans tend to get emotionally attached to ppl that we get intimate with, even if it were meant to be just casual sex with no strings attached.
one night stand --- casual fuck buddy --- start trading gifts, befriend on social networks --- consistent fuck buddy --- official mistress of the past year --- wife finds out/confess to her --- divorce --- marry the one night stand. repeat process.
^^ isnt that pretty much it ? mainly due to the fact its hard for us to curb our emotions and affinity towards the ones you fuck. specially if she's a decent person overall besides the fact she likes being cummed on her face.
hahahaha
why try to make sense of it at all? i'm a bigger weirdo than most and i still don't understand half the weird shit people do.
lol i'm dating somebody right now, and basically i'm acting to her like a completely different person than i actually am because she wouldn't deal with me otherwise. the shit won't last anyway, but at least i can fuck her when i'm bored.