Love? what is your definition of it?

I mean authentic love... is it a frequency. some say its a brain chemistry thing.
I was thinking about it because of my failure to appreciate things beyond looks and physicality. I mentioned my 2011 water fast as being a good one because I felt serene and like love(whatever that may be) was the underlying feeling when i was on my last day of the fast
I walked past this girl 10mins from my appartment and I found myself smiling at her though I wasnt attracted to her. I just felt like I appreciated seeing her. nowadays Im completely different

but yeah. Anyone's welcome to share their thoughts on the subject of love.

-what it is
-How one experiences it
-Whether its real
-why it is said that "everything is love"
-If it exists..what stops one from experiencing it
-Oxytocin?
-Anger and fear as a barrier
-Blockages

i do believe its a frequency but i cant prove it

(*waits for beautiful rock to tell me i need to get my leg over*)

shrooms and a fast have got me closer to my idea of love but erm...i dunno
the science behind a shrooom trip would be interesting to look into. its said that brain activity decreases dramatically a while after ingesting those bad girls

it is a mental illness

Ive heard that said before. but i would say what some people interpret as love is actually an ilness

get your leg over? is that some type of odd british slang?

alot of of things can be wrongly identified as love I think. motives for supposed loving acts ought to be considered in order to be able have something deemed an act of love

slang for getting laid

Love doesn't exist at all. I think people confuse love with wanting to fuck somebody, especially men get this confused. I liken it to a fairytale because I believe that's where this bullshit phenomenon comes from. When people are in "love" what they're really doing is using another person as a way to fill in the holes and void missing from themselves. If you have your life and person in order and control your own happiness and emotional wellbeing then "love" isn't needed at all.

That's why people say "I can't explain it" when asked why they love someone and the ones who can come up with some superficial crap. If you're in love you're a sucker IMO women are just something to put a dick in to

i hear what you are saying coz theres this filipina girl i went secondary school with. I thought I loved her but since she didnt wanna know ive been a nuisance to her and havent been acting out of love at all. its more obsessive. u cant 'love' someone and at the same time force yourself on them. thats something else

but I do think language can confuse things because there is a thing people call divine love then theres love and people also interwine compassion with love. if there is a higher frequency so to speak i dont think people operating at that level will be concerned with what your average joe deems as love

google says love is having a strong affection for someone. but affection is something that gets me hard so i hear u fully hound. biological shit

lust is a dense state though to me. i like pussy but i feel like its an obstacle at the same time. gets me devolving sometimes

Oh I strongly believe in compassion, empathy. I think you can have affection too but that affection has a limit and doesn't extend to strong levels. I definitely like people but I can't even say definitively whether or not I even love my parents who are pretty cool people and have always been there for me but there's no strong feeling towards them. I definitely don't love any family member either in fact I distance myself from them and apart from funerals I only see them on Christmas/Boxing Day, and after my pop passes away I'll stop going to that too.

I don't know about your life but for arguments sake lets say you have a male best friend that you've grown up with and you're practically like brothers, then you have some bird you're "in love" with, what's the difference between them? You want to fuck the chick but not your male best friend lol but really you probably bond closer with your male best friend that's considered a brother. I really don't think men can be friends with women because eventually you just want to root them unless they're incredibly ugly or they're a dyke.

The main reason I think we are just misunderstanding our feelings of sexual desire for "love" is that sex and procreation is our natural instinct but love isn't. We weren't put on this earth to form families and build relationships.

If there's anyone on this planet I have love for its myself only. I realised that everything is internal. All the "love" I need is inside me. I control my happiness. I'm the only one I have and who is going to look out for my best interest is me. People look to other people to fill these voids, that's why I don't need or want anybody.

Yeah I have a female friend who I cant help but wanna root. Its hard for me to admit because im imagining how should would react to me telling her that I wanna crash that. but all in all it feels like i have an affinity for her because she is so accepting of my weird ways. im well aware that i wouldnt have told her i 'love' her if she wasnt pretty so yeah like pretty much everyone i was on
some superficial shit.
as for my parents i have an affinity for my mum but thats all i can say. its an affinity.

Im not sure what the feeling was when i smoked weed one time and was picturing a whole load of people who are in a struggle. i just felt this overwhelmiing warmth towards them. Drugs really are some serious shit

whats that satan?

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Originally Posted by The Hound

The main reason I think we are just misunderstanding our feelings of sexual desire for "love" is that sex and procreation is our natural instinct but love isn't. We weren't put on this earth to form families and build relationships.

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Says who? You are a sociopath/loner/whatever but most human beings are social creatures (you can look outside for proof) and we evolved to be that way.

Having a family is a pretty good evolutionary way to take care of your offspring until they're old enough to take care of themselves.

Its fine for you to be different but don't act like some sort of zen genius and the rest of humanity are idiots because they like to interact and build mutually beneficial relationships. Its kind of amazing how you've rationalized all this shit like everybody else has a problem and you're the only guy that figured it out.

As far as love, like being in love like in a movie? I don't know if people really feel like that. I care for some people, and I'm attracted to others. When those 2 categories crossover yeah it is pretty powerful, obviously a lot of problems come along but thats life.

Of course sex is our natural instinct you fucking idiot don't you know how reproduction works? We need to hump to keep our species going.

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Of course sex is our natural instinct you fucking idiot don't you know how reproduction works? We need to hump to keep our species going.

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Not sure where I disputed that but whatever.

Gonna drop a jewel on wucorp:

Time before time when the world was young two brothers shared a field and a mill. Each night they divided evenly the grain they had ground together during the day. Now as it happened, one of the brothers lived alone; the other had a wife and a large family. One day, the single brother thought to himself: " it isnt really fair the we divide the grain evenly. I only have myself to care for, but my brother has children to feed." So each night he secretly took some of his grain to his brother's granary to see that he was never without.
But the married brother said to himself one day, "it isnt really fair that we divide the grain evenly, because I have children to provide for me in my old age, but my brother has no one. What will he do when he is old?" So every night he secretly took some of his grain to his brother's granary. As a result, both of them always found their supply of grain mysteriously replenished each morning.
Then one night the brothers met each other halfway between their two houses, suddenly realized what had been happening, and embraced each other in love.
The story is that God witnessed their meeting and proclaimed, "this is a holy place -a place of love- and here it is that my temple shall be built." And so it was. The holy place, where God is made known, is the place where human beings discover each other in love.

Yeah but that's still a man created story. Love doesn't exist in nature, it's not natural at all.

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Not sure where I disputed that but whatever.

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Just like I wasn't being on I'm smart you're not shit. "I think" that's my opinion not fact.

Thats fair. I just find that perspective difficult to swallow. I think love, or something analogous does exist in nature.

You gotta raise a man or woman from a baby for 18 years, plus 9 months hormone time. If you live in the jungle or something you're going to have a rough time doing that shit on your own, and its still a pretty bad idea in 2016. Which is why "love" or at least dedication or loyalty or whatever word you like exists. Its the whole family structure which is built into human nature. Of course not everybody goes along with it, either because they're emotionless robots or gay and people like that, are again an evolutionary response imo, a gene kept in circulation as a form of population control.

We lived past evolution now. We push ourselves forward as a race in whatever direction we want to. Although its not easy, humans challenge themselves to advance. So we can completely reject every last tribal instinct if we want to. I would like to keep the family part though cos it seems pretty good. Racism and prejudice is a tribal instinct I'd like to see us leave behind. And the primitive attempts of us to explain the world with religion should be going as well. Theres lots of stuff we do as humans that is animalistic even when theres a thought process behind it. We don't even notice most of it for what it is.

But having a mutual attraction and respect with somebody of the opposite sex is pretty rewarding, and it has to be otherwise the human race would have died out with a bunch of malnourished kids, single mothers, and predatory proto Cosbys.

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Yeah but that's still a man created story. Love doesn't exist in nature, it's not natural at all.

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I was hoping others would pick up on the underlying theme of the story I posted. Love is an action word. Doing a good deed in secret and expecting nothing in return is the purest definition of love that I can come up with.
I won't come here and shit on your lifestyle like others feel the need to but I can say from experience that sitting around trying to conjure up visions of what love is....is a huge waste of time. You gotta pull your own card, take inventory of your actions. Taking roses to a loved ones grave site is another form of the highest love. You might see this as bullshit, the person is dead, what's the point? When you come from a place of love, you are putting flowers there and expecting nothing in return - not even a warm hearted smile. Love is the symbol that defines a connection between people.
Or maybe you are doing all these things and just choose not to call it love....rock out.

I hear u machete. it is a waste of time. its just that it was on my mind

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I was hoping others would pick up on the underlying theme of the story I posted. Love is an action word. Doing a good deed in secret and expecting nothing in return is the purest definition of love that I can come up with.
I won't come here and shit on your lifestyle like others feel the need to but I can say from experience that sitting around trying to conjure up visions of what love is....is a huge waste of time. You gotta pull your own card, take inventory of your actions. Taking roses to a loved ones grave site is another form of the highest love. You might see this as bullshit, the person is dead, what's the point? When you come from a place of love, you are putting flowers there and expecting nothing in return - not even a warm hearted smile. Love is the symbol that defines a connection between people.
Or maybe you are doing all these things and just choose not to call it love....rock out.

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That I agree with.

I agree with the interpretation of the story and if I had to choose any belief in love that would be close to it.

But can humans do good deeds for no return favour? Even without the gratification of doing a good deed? I don't think so.

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But can humans do good deeds for no return favour? Even without the gratification of doing a good deed? I don't think so.

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Not eveyone wants something in return. If someone asks me for cash, assistance with moving, or just help, I'm there. I don't expect anything in return. Unfortunately, there are people who look down it because the way they view it, people'll take advantage of your kindness.

An individual doing a good deed is just being human, nothing more. Assisting an old lady with a flat tire, helping out a co-worker with a project, donating clothes to a shelter you know longer need, going the extra mile for a friend or love one in need, purchasing food for a family in need, etc.

It's just being a good person with expected anything in return.

Machete already took my definition before I could post. Giving while seeking nothing in return but people often mistake it for an emotion. It exists in nature as well. It's well described in the Metu Neter books I've been reading for years.

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But can humans do good deeds for no return favour? Even without the gratification of doing a good deed? I don't think so.

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speak for yourself lol, its incredibly easy. you're not even capable of seeing half of the human population as human, I don't think you're in any sort of position to give social/ behavioral/ emotional advice.

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mumm ra, the next time you get beat up at a 7 eleven, I will help dust you off and pick your broken glasses up for you.

brock is proof that god has a sense of humor. lmao your existence is so pathetic is legit makes me smile.
thanks brock I appreciate you. you gonna buy me nachos too buddy ol pal?