Originally Posted by
Hal Incandenza
On the subject of being a provider, by chance most of the women I've been with earned more than I did. We never pooled incomes though.
I remember one woman getting upset when I went from full time work to 17 out of 20 official working hours. The relationship was getting intense (at that point we'd been together for a year and a half) and I'd had some health issues, and I thought I could do with a breather by slowing down on work. In fact the lighter work load was obligatory (medical reasons).
She was absolutely LIVID when she found out I was no longer going to be working full time hahaha. It was interesting because she was a relatively big earner, I'd say around $1,000 or upwards more than my wage (monthly), and she was upset not because I was gonna bring less money to the table (like I said I never pooled income with partners) but because I DARED to slow down in the work department. "How are you gonna slow down now already when we don't even have kids yet?" I was too dumb to understand then but looking back now that convo right there could have taught me a lot about myself and why my outlook on both money spending and relationships isn't gonna play well in traditional (?) relationships.
I will say that my actual income never played a part in how partners viewed me (at least not that I've been aware of), unlike how their parents viewed me. God, I detest in-laws, but not as much as they detested me lel.
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